Most people don’t like to be controlled; most people have an issue with authority. However, the funny thing is that most people are so quick to give away that control to mindless things, like drugs. Isn’t it funny how kids are so quick to lash out at their parents for telling them what they should do, but have a difficult time saying no to things that are actually harmful to them? If you prefer staying in control of your life, prove it; do everything within your power to maintain that control.
Have a Purpose
The number one secret for success in life is knowing what you want.
I must admit, life is hard and sometimes you can’t tell where you are heading. Some people have such difficult lives that determining what it is they want is so hard. For example, Sansa Stark in Game of Thrones lived a very difficult life. It is challenging for most people to picture someone living a life like that. Nonetheless, there are people who have actually lived, and are still living, and will live a life like that in reality. If you look around enough, you will come across them. Life can be unbearable.
The thing that keeps anyone going is purpose and a sense of direction. As they say, if you lose hope, you have lost it all. There is that one thing that you want so much above everything else. Figure out what it is and as long as you are in control, nothing will hinder you from attaining it – NOTHING!
No Man is an Island
In as much as most people like their independence, you cannot be successful in life without friends or a reliable social network.
The wise men say, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future”. It is also true that your friends don’t necessarily define you.
The most important thing about a social circle and friends is quality. The more valuable people you have around and that you have access to, the higher the chances are that you will acquire the tools and resources necessary to achieve your goals in life. If you are with friends who value their health, status in life, and enjoy an active lifestyle, don’t be surprised if you end up living a healthy, high status, and adventurous life.
Conversely, if you have friends who don’t care much about their lives, and whom anything goes, two things are likely to happen – you will either succumb to their lifestyle or they will drag you down while you strive for the life you want and deserve. And believe me, they are a burden no one can handle. Drug addiction is difficult to overcome; but difficult is not impossible. When it comes to drugs, prevention is better than cure. Stay away from them or anyone suggesting anything of that sort.
Surround yourself with people who can help you grow and it is only a matter of time before your dreams become reality.
You cannot give what you don’t have. If you don’t know how to love yourself, it will be a problem for you to love others.
Few people are born with the capacity to understand who they are and what they want in life. Few people are born with the ability to love themselves. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you cannot learn how to love you. If you cannot give love, reflect it!
Nothing can motivate you to love yourself like being in control of your life. No one in his or her right mind wants to be a slave to anything or anyone. Only those whose spirits have been broken and who are misguided embrace slavery.
Relying on drugs when you are not ill is willingly enslaving yourself to a cruel master; a master that does not care about your future, goals, ambitions, desires, hopes, interests, expectations, or purpose in life.
Those who love themselves cannot stand the thought of serving such a master, and their lives show it.
I understand that we don’t all get the same chances in life. Be that as it may, we still owe it to ourselves to make the most of the much life has given us.
You are like a seed – any seed – albeit tiny, when planted in the right soils and environment, you can grow to fill the earth or at least that entire environment.
More often than not, we are the only ones standing in our way. You are your own worst enemy, as well as your very best friend.