The start of a new relationship can be a whirlwind of feelings and emotions as you begin to get to know one another and discover the chemistry that exists between the two of you.
A new relationship brings new opportunity not only to get to know someone else who could be “the one” but the opportunity to learn new things about yourself too. Starting a relationship off on the right foot can set the tone for the whole relationship going forward.
Here is some advice to help you get a handle on those butterflies and enjoy the beginning of something new:
- Don’t Share Too Much Too Soon
When you’re starting a new relationship, you are likely to start off with small talk, chatting about the superficial things before you start diving into deeper, more intimate topics. It’s very tempting to tell someone your whole life story when you first meet, but sometimes it can be a little off-putting.
Start small and work your way up to bigger stories. Some details of your life before this relationship should be kept to yourself until you are both in a position to share those more intimate stories and details.
- Don’t Actively Look for Flaws
A common mistake that people make on first dates is looking for flaws in their date. It’s natural to want to know if your date has any major flaws that you’d want to know from the get-go. But that doesn’t mean you should actively seek out their flaws right at the beginning of a relationship.
According to professional matchmaking service Kelleher International, you should go into a first date with the mindset that you will have a great time regardless of whether your date is “the one” or not and if they seem too good to be true, don’t start looking for something negative.
- Be Honest and Genuine
Don’t try to be someone that you’re not, because if things do work out, they may not last long if your genuine personality starts to come out. As the saying goes “honesty is the best policy,” so keep your story straight and don’t try embellishing anything about yourself to try and impress your date.
It may just end up backfiring on you at some point. You obviously want to show off your best qualities at the start of a new relationship, but there’s no need to straight-up lie to impress. Instead, avoid talking about any negative traits and if they come up, be honest.
- Don’t Be Nerdy
It’s a universally-shared feeling that nobody likes a nerdy partner. Nerds are unpopular and people have notions about them, whether right or wrong is a matter of debate.
Some people might find it cute and somewhat healthy for their partner to be a little jealous. However, being full-on restricting and demanding is not so cute, and is generally a huge turn-off.
It’s normal to want to spend a lot of time together in the early stages of a relationship but avoid calling and texting constantly. Also, don’t demand that your new bae spend all their free time with you. Make time for your existing relationships with friends and family in between seeing your new love interest.
- Take Things Slowly
If you’re not ready to start talking about intimate details regarding your own sexual health or asking them about theirs, it’s probably a good idea to hold off on being intimate with them.
In the same vein, don’t feel pressured to have sex until you are both completely ready. For some, this may be a long time and for others shorter, it all depends on each individual as well as who you are as a couple.