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How to Create a Unique and Personalized Funeral

Family and loved ones are faced with many decisions when planning the funeral of a loved one. You do not have to create unnecessary stress or worry when planning a funeral. All you need to do is think about what your loved one would have wanted and discuss these ideas with your funeral director. You may be surprised at how much they will be able to help and how creative they will let you be. Funeral directors know that some people do not want the same old funeral ceremony, and most are not afraid to help you add a little something different to the mix. The funeral director’s job is to help you create the funeral your loved one always wanted, and they will go above and beyond to help you achieve this. Here are just a few ideas you may want to discuss with your funeral director to give your loved one’s funeral a more personal feeling.

  • Include a few family traditions in the service. These traditions can be anything that brings your family fond memories of the past with your loved one. You can bring mementos or tell stories of your yearly family vacation, reminisce about annual family parties or reunions or incorporate your family’s favorite holidays memories into the funeral through videos and pictures. Any memories that are special to your loved one and your friends and family would be fine to share during the funeral service.
  • Offer mementos to funeral attendees. You can set up a table or hand out mementos individually. Remember this does not have to be expensive. You can keep it simple. A poem, a recipe, a picture that means something to the deceased, jewelry or statues that relate to the deceased would be nice. If you can find a way to incorporate the deceased favorite things, it would be perfect. You could give the funeral guests something to remember your loved one by and not have too spend too much money on it.
  • Incorporate your loved one’s favorite song. If your loved one had a favorite song or a song that truly meant something to them, you could play it during the funeral service. Or, if you have a singer or musician in your group of family and friends, they could sing or perform your loved one’s favorite song. It would be a nice tribute to them, and a nice way to honor their memory without having to spend or plan too much.
  • Feature a memory table. Many people love this idea. You can have pictures of special memories with your loved one, things that they liked, such as hobbies, sports teams, pictures, novels, art or flowers. Anything that would make your loved one smile would be a perfect fit for a memory table. You can place pictures of them and all of their favorite things on a table in the entrance of the funeral service or in the same room as the service, whichever works better for you.
  • Invite your guest to share stories and memories of your loved one. Many people like to set aside a special time during the funeral to allow guests to come up and share their stories and memories of the deceased. This allows everyone to share in the memory of the deceased and remember all the fun and good times everyone had with your loved one. This process also helps people feel as if they were a part of the funeral and may help them go through the grieving process a little easier.

Most of us believe that in order to create a unique and personalized funeral we will have to spend a lot of money or a lot of time to plan it. Neither of these have to be true. You can keep it simple and still add some nice personalizations to your loved one’s funeral, and most funeral directors will be more than happy to help you. Remember it is okay to step out of the normal or ordinary funeral service and add a little something to it to make your loved one’s funeral feel as if it is one of a kind. So, do not be afraid to try something new and take a chance at making your loved one’s funeral truly something special and one of a kind.

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